Monday, May 20, 2013

Counter-Fit.

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind/And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind. William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night’s Dream


(**Disclaimer** We're just friends, remember? Just friends. All rights to my vivid, hallucinatory, unrequited over-romanticism are reserved for my own heart. Who are you to judge me?)



My shoe felt too tightly tied whilst "working" out on the patio this afternoon. (Multicolored Skechers sneakers today, with denim shorts and my Mister Rogers t-shirt. My closet's kind of a shoe clusterfuck right now, so I couldn't find my sandals, which are probably off to the summer-side.) Never mind it being difficult to find AAA-narrow sneakers, I look like a total dork with any pair of tie-up shoes because the bows have to be ginormous as I cinch the laces tightly. If there's anything left chronically anorexic on my body, it's my stupid feet (and my infant-sized wrists).

So I untied my shoes and took them off, and in a very un-Annieish manner, was sitting on the patio in bare feet. (Yes, wow, I need a pedicure.) Traditionally, I really dislike being barefoot. Don't get me wrong. Crunchy granola au natural is fine, but I'm kind of nitpicky. It's a foot thing. I don't like my feet, your feet, her feet, his feet, their feet, so on and so on. The only feet I don't mind are my son's, mostly because he used to lie in my lap and I'd kiss his toes. (When my Pastor brought up the idea that the whole contemporary band should have a foot-washing ceremony, a'la Jesus and his posse, I cowered and cringed in gagging fright. Thankfully, it hasn't happened yet.)

Naturally, taking my shoes off leads me directly back to thinking (doesn't everything?) about the night I had Guy Friend...over for dinner (the laboriously, lovingly handmade "Self-Harm" meat sauce he now tells me he DOESN'T EVEN LIKE because there's TOO MUCH MEAT in it!)  I found this out recently on the phone while he was describing a marinara he was planning to make for dinner at home, because it seems Lady GuyGuy has totally indentured him. She probably lets the couscous all stick to the bottom of the pot instead of fluffing it properly after the moisture is absorbed. She eats ham. Maybe he finds cooking relaxing and creative. Who knows. (Has it not occurred to him that it'd be mighty generous, thoughtful and wonderful of him to, like, send her away for a long weekend at a spa for all the fixins and pampering with her best friend so he could, like, cook for ME and chill out? I didn't say anything about anything else. Yes, I realize it'd be more pious and appropriate to invite Luke and I over for a dinner "all together," but she barely tolerated me (read: she hates my mere existence) & I'd have to be drunk, stoned and sedated, and Luke can't really drive us home, legally, but please, yes, he knows how to drive.)

And here I've been sharing my MEATY sauce with them all this time! (Yes, I always said it was for "both of them.")  And it caused a big fight with my ex-boyfriend once, because he said if I was giving Guy sauce, THE sauce, I must be falling in love with him! Your point, Aesop? And Guy doesn't LIKE it? I imagine Lady GuyGuy having tossed the leftover container(s) of it in the garbage when they've cleaned out their freezer(s), saying, "What the heck IS this, anyway?" Or after having smacked Guy over the head with the Ziploc frozen container, the lid flying off in their showdown, grazing his neck and nicking him in the jugular, a gushing, bloody mess had to be mopped up.) 

But I think I digress. Ok, yeah, I digressed. 

Having loosened him with wine that night, I asked him what he loved the most about me while we were eating. (He refrained from saying, "Well, it sure as HELL isn't your MEATY sauce!") He put his fork down, had a panic attack for a second, and said there were "so many things" he could choose from (Well, yes! Good retort, Guy!), but ultimately said my honesty was the zinger. In hindsight, nowadays, I think that's the thing he hates the most about me too. I put things "out there," and he chronically avoids them, like walking around dodging landmines or Canadian goose poop in the park so he doesn't end up peg-legged like Macca's bitchy second, gold-digging ex-wife. Avoiding things does not equal being clueless and/or in denial. 

AVOIDING: "Oh God, oh God, oh God! This is more than I can process and I'm all weird and my head is spinning, so I stuffed my ears with cotton and poured a scotch, but yes, ok, fine, I know exactly what's going on & I can't articulate much less juggle it, geez, so I'm just going to shush. But holy crap! Danger! Shoot me up with Haldol!"

CLUELESS DENIAL: "She what? She does? No, she doesn't. She can't. She means? Are you sure? Why'd she? Must she? She couldn't have. She's obviously disturbed or needs stronger glasses. I highly doubt it. Pfft. You're fucking crazy. But look at the guys she hangs out with! Shoot HER up with Haldol!"

So for what...the last 2-3 years, I've been vainly attempting to get him to tell me what *all* of those other things might be. Or obtain more concrete affirmation that he kind of loves me (of course he does, he's nuts about me).  He said something (hi, fuzz) in the car the last time we were out about having read some, but not all of what BMF's BFF had so lovingly commented to me in a previous blog, and something about what was unsaid being sometimes more important than what was actually said. He gets me too wracked in a haze of illogical, giggly, but no less frustrating quasi-arousal to follow up with comebacks for things like, well, clarification, questioning or expounding on his vague statements. I should know better. I'm a psychologist!

Come to think of it, Guy's a lot like his car. When it goes in reverse, it makes those beeping noises to alert the driver (and others) that he's backing up and could hit something. It's like they ping in his head whenever he's about to spew a phrase that could be misconstrued as reciprocation of my relentless lust. (**See disclaimer above.**)

(No. No. No. iTunes. Air Supply's "Making Love Out of Nothing at All" queued into Neil Diamond/Barbra Streisand's "You Don't Bring Me Flowers" wrapping around Olivia Newton-John's "Make a Move on Me?" Is this the Totally Shitty Sobbing Irony Mix? For the record, I would make love out of everything ever and could give a crap about receiving flowers IF anyone EVER made a move on me.)

Anyway, after continuing to pour him wine, and eat dinner, and me forgetting to offer coffee afterwards, and not having anything for dessert, because yes, I'm totally awkward and was nervous, we sat on one of my couches together (ok, they're technically love seats, but whatever, Jesus...) and God's honest truth, it was a couple of years ago--I can't remember what we talked about or whether or not we barely snuggled--I know we didn't kiss--THAT I would've remembered (and it'd have been such good timing! He probably played with my fingers, he likes my rings or something--I don't know...I think he likes hands), but he sat with his legs extended out, having, I think, taken off his tie and loosened his dress shirt collar in the car before he came in, and then untied his shoes. He didn't take them off....he just untied and loosened them. He got comfortable, cozy, and probably drowsy from working all day and having like 3/4 of a bottle of wine. 

(Fuckin' iTunes. Every time I write...this narrative musically flows....Wow, now I really didn't need to hear the old Al Stewart song, "Year of the Cat;" specifically, the line, "You know sometime you're bound to leave her, but for now you're gonna stay.")

I don't know what Lady GuyGuy knew of that evening, or frankly of any other evening we've socialized, nor do I frankly give a shit...what he told her, but I guess now that I think about it, my parting container of sauce could've ended up somewhere splattered on the tollway, thrust out the car window on 294 North, for tires to skid and trample over what I guess was just too much ground sirloin. (And you all know, I'm *mostly* vegetarian! This sauce is more meat than I usually eat in a month, and I only make a batch 2 or 3 times a year.)

(Great, my iTunes soundtracks on with U2's "Stay (Far Away, So Close)," from a film entitled the parentheses. It's the subtitled French version of what in the USA became the Meg Ryan/Nicholas Cage film, "City of Angels," about Cage as an angel who trades invisibility, miracles and heavenly power to become mortal because he fell in love with Ryan's character, who's a surgeon. Spoiler Synopsis: She gets run over by a truck and dies and he's really, really sad.) 

When Guy and I celebrated our early-May birthdays a couple of weeks ago, with an unanticipated (Spontaneity!) random trip to a card/party outlet store (for Mother's Day cards, which was a week away...) and "Hey! Look! There's a Panera! Are you hungry?" lunch, we exchanged gifts in the car. (Because he's too jumbled to just come out and say, "Annie, would you like to have lunch with me on my birthday? I'd like that!" without any external goofy excuses compelling him to go out with me. "Annie! My library books are overdue. Busy? Want to return them with me? Oh, look! Let's turn right. Wow! A raw vegan al fresco bistro!")

Having been out to wine country in California recently, he'd either visited or passed a vineyard called "Anarchy," and I'm sure, veering off the road, he whipped in and bought me a boss, hot, girly-fitted anarchy t-shirt and a (decorative for the alcoholic) anarchy wine glass, both of which I loved. 

See, here's me on May 5th. Just so I could torture my teenager with cyber embarrassment, I did my best stereotypical young chick duckface bathroom self-portrait so I could show Guy the shirt. For anyone unfamiliar, yes, this is what I look like at present. (Keep this in mind...we'll come back to it later.)




Also, the anarchy glass, awesome:



I gave him a book on how to be a nicer doctor, and a decorative candle with a brain preserved in clear jelly in a glass jar. His gifts for me totally made up for the experience of trying to help him pick out a Mother's Day card for Lady GuyGuy, which I suggested he blow off, since she's (a) not his mother and (b) we couldn't find anything truly befitting, like: 

"It was SUPER GREAT procreating with you! As Mother's Day coincides with my birthday and this psycho punker's you think is out to steal your fella's birthday, thanks for totally buzz killing her 40th birthday party last year and congratulations on liberally snacking a bowl of Meow Mix because she kind of out-hotted you and you weren't expecting her to look like THE ANTITHESIS of PREPPY IN COMBAT BOOTS. Love forever and ever! Faithfully Yours Eternally, Blah blah blah, Yes, I love you, Aw Damn, Guy." 


Pretty cool candle, no?

On May 9th, my actual 41st birthday, MEG (New abbreviation/pseudonym for my Massively Exquisite Girlfriend) and I went out for tater tots and merriment at our local neighborhood sort-of-swanky-ish restaurant/bar. We invited Guy, who declined because Thursdays are his nightmare work day. MEG and I were sequestered to a corner booth. We asked for a table for 2, or 3, or 4. Big enough for 2 massive tot orders. Guy said based on my wardrobe choice (my shoes, actually, remember, he likes shoes) picked out, a picture of which I sent Guy, that "If some businessmen don't hit on the two of you at the bar, then something is wrong." 



OOF! Right?

Hi. Something must've been horribly wrong, since we sat there and just imbibedly laughed for like 4 hours, pigging out on tots & flying solo in our corner while rowdy hooligans watched the Blackhawks game and 2 extremely quiet Asian men (travelers, methinks) sat and ate without looking at or talking to one another. I howled in uproarious laughter, near tears, at the sight of MEG's gift to me, which is directly related to Guy in a way we've only previously joked for some time now.

That was the 2nd or 3rd time Guy's suggested I and/or MEG & I hook up with a businessman. I've told him over and over again that businessmen don't float my boat. Fuck, if I wanted to seduce and land a guy with a zillion bucks, I'd line up more rock stars. I don't know what about that doesn't sink into Guy, because he suggested on the phone AGAIN yesterday that MEG and I should start hanging out at even swankier restaurants, steakhouses like Gibson's or Morton's, in order to land businessmen. MEG and I were scratching our heads. 



Needless to say, I'm sure MEG was turning heads left, right and center, 'cause she's MEG, but I don't envision any of the white collared executives OR icky hipsters waged the idea of winking at me across the bar. Surprise? I was unsettled by Guy's suggestion enough to text MEG back and forth about this businessmen thing, and concluded that Guy's train of thought is rooted in the fact that HE doesn't feel worthy of ME. (Defies logic. It was MEG's idea.) Guy said few years back that he thought he was ugly himself and if I tell him he's cute one more time, he'll tell me to shut up. He has this delusion that I could have my pick of the litter, when historically, that's totally untrue. Conversely, I think the same is true of Guy...that women swarm around him. (Especially in scrubs, like OH MY HOLY GOD.)  I texted Guy that while I was sure MEG could swing it with the corporate boys, totally, I said, "But, like, do you KNOW what I look like? My anti-style? My schtick? What's hot? Shaking my head, I told him, "I don't need a Ph.D. to conclude that it's your own insecurity and you scratch your own head as to why you're so attractive. Jesus Christ." 

Now that you've seen what I look like at present, do you think I remotely look like a businessman's preferred hook up? Exactly. That said, you wouldn't think Guy and I would mesh together AT ALL either. Guy's totally not my type. I'm totally not Guy's type. No more callers, we have a winner. We're VERY, VERY different.  My style is to have no style at all, which is original. I get a kick out of looking totally ridiculous, and unmatched and disheveled, and I don't have my shit together the way MEG does. Guy's preferred wear is decidedly business-like during the work day (Babe, those seasonal theme ties? NO! NO! NO! PLEASE. Don't be one of those men in 20 years wearing a "World's Greatest Grandpa" sweatshirt.) and Typical White Upper Crust Suburban Dad on the weekend. Unless we're going out together, when he kindly abides by my "Please, no khaki pants." He HAS jeans that look really good and *some* shirts without a little man riding a horse on the chest. Rock it out, brother. Smokin!

 I'm sure Guy would prefer I wear:



Kind of negates Billy Joel's "Just the Way You Are," no?  To dress this way might pique and fulfill *some* men's fantasies, but it's not something I could ever (or would want to) pull off (er, have eventually pulled off of me). In other words, appearing like this would be a counterfeit Annie. Not only would I look silly, feel objectified and fall flat on my face, I'd feel stripped of my unique personality and quirkiness, which is manifested to some degree in what I do (or don't) wear. Those heels? Christ, why don't I just walk around wearing ice skates? 

I've been reading these short blurbs on www.thoughtcatalog.com  Believe me, if you have something pressing or important to do in your life, don't visit this site, because it's completely like crack cocaine, and 100% of your energy will be expended reading things that make you pine, think, cry, eat ice cream and swoon. Yes, they have an extensive collection on love and sex. 

The Thought Catalog entry that moved my senses the most was called "I Want To Snuggle With You," by Karyn Spencer, from 2011. It really does encapsulate what I'm not clever enough to write or tell Any Guy myself. PS, as you read on, I'm just saying that Guy's nose is decidedly crooked, which is part of his charm. Yes, this is totally unrealistic. That's why the woman wrote it.

"I want to snuggle with you. I’d like to lie on you and put my head on your shoulder and breathe in the same rhythm that you’re breathing. I want to use one of my hands to rub your head, down to your neck, then to your arm, and then hold your hand. I’d like to rest my other hand on your hipbone, which is my favorite part of your body because it’s a straight and bony hip, nothing like my curvy, soft one.

*Annie Note: Guy has the best hands of anyone, ever, even any musician I know. They're surgeon hands. I do like his hipbone, though he's kinda wiry.

I’d like to stay there long enough so that our awkwardness goes away. I’d like to feel you give into the moment. Don’t ask yourself if this is too intimate. Don’t worry about sending me signals that you like me too much. Don’t think about what will happen with us tomorrow. Stop wondering if your team is winning and how much longer it will be until I get off of you so you can turn the game on.

*Annie Note: He wouldn't worry about sports. He'd worry about PURGATORY.

Make a joke after a few moments of peace, one of those jokes that isn’t funny because of its sharp wit, but funny because it’s a comment on our current state, designed to make both of us ease further into the bubble of each other that we’re currently floating in. You could say something about how I’m as pale as the sheets, or how your pet is staring at us from the corner, or how the lady upstairs is walking like an elephant. And we’ll laugh together. Not the laugh that we shared in the bar with our friends. Not the laugh that comes when you watch an episode of Flight Of The Concords. Not the laugh that you force when your boss says something mean. This will be the laugh that you saved just for me, the one that’s vulnerable and soft and sweet, because that’s how you’re feeling towards me right now.

*Annie Note: Nix the pets. Nix the elephants. What's "Flight of the Concords?" Most of our jokes are only funny to us in the first place, because we're sardonically snide and mocking.

 You won’t think about what I said last week that made you angry. You won’t feel guilty for that thing you did that I would be upset about if I knew. You won’t plan what you’re having for dinner tonight. You will soak the right now of this up. Our moment.

*Annie Note: Guilt is a useless emotion. Carpe diem! You know you want to! 

I’d like you to play with my hair. Don’t pat my head with a flat hand, put your fingers under my hair, on my scalp, and then run them through my hair like it’s a waterfall. Wrap both of your arms around me and give me a long, tight squeeze, the kind where in the last second, I need to inhale but I can’t. Then I’d like you to close your eyes, so I can prop myself over your face and study your features freely without you looking back at me. I want to kiss your jaw line, fondle your earlobes, sweep my cheek against yours. I want to stroke the slope of your nose and your eyelids and admire your eyelashes.

*Annie Note: Ok, I like all of this, but his hair is softer than mine. And his eyelashes are longer. My hair's more like a porcupine than a waterfall. "Wow, Annie, you weren't kidding about the gray!"

I’d like you to run your thumb over my lips. Cup my face with both of your hands. And I want you to kiss me. This will be a kiss that liquefies from light to deep and then back to light. A seemingly endless kiss that doesn’t lead to anything else. It doesn’t need to. We’ll share it simply to feel the warmth that it brings on its own. Then I want you to roll me over. Lie on top of me and hold our arms over our heads so that I can feel all of your weight, strong and heavy and masculine.

*Annie Note: I am ALL OVER that.

I want you to start at the beginning and do it again."

Except I'd want him to scratch my back too. I might even consider breaking my Ick Factor Foot Rule and give him a foot massage. Now THAT, my friends, is a DAMN. FINE. FANTASY. (**See disclaimer above.)

*Endnote: Ok, I'm about ready to slit my wrists now. Well, lookie here! Luke unearthed the treasure of the Andrea & Craig engraved wedding cake cutter at his dad's last weekend! 

Not only is marriage as a concept totally ill-advised; unless you're gay, in which case, you'll totally live happily together forever, getting everything for your fucking wedding engraved, printed or etched with your names is a double-jinx guaranteed to land you in front of a judge dissolving your bond (which, surprisingly, takes roughly 1/4 of the duration of your wedding ceremony). We had 80 guests at our small marriage fete, but I ordered 1,000 Andrea & Craig lavender cocktail napkins. We were BOTH still using them 3 years after we separated after 11 years of marriage. 


Please. If you insist on personalizing every goddamn item, let someone good at ratios and math help you with ordering. Thank you. In retrospect, I should've put an Andrea & Craig engraved flask on our bridal registry.







14 comments:

BMF said...

Yes, you told me to keep quiet. I don't usually listen.

I did, or couldn't you hear my hurling noises?

I've never had your sauce, but I'm familiar with its legend & the love and effort you put into it. Chris was kind of right; meaning, you give it to people not because you're on a Food Channel cook-off, but because it's a gesture of kindness and love. And you do tend to make it when you're internally grappling or really, really stressed, which to me makes it all the more special--like "Things are rough for me right now, but let me share this creation with you, because you're special." Like a lot of the pieces I've created with you in mind. I don't just give them to everyone. Guy likes the sauce--he is just being difficult (shock!).

Those black shoes are really sexy, and I'm sure you looked great, but they don't make or break you, and I don't understand the biz guy fixups either. STOP underestimating your hotness! Your physical attraction to Guy is something none of us understand and I know it's superficial and you think he's awesome anyway, but no, he's not your type of hunk. (I am, remember, ha ha.)

You might want to delete my comment, but it's so obvious that you need to get laid, it's ridiculous. You could have sex with probably, yeah, pretty much anyone you wanted, but you need to GET LAID. But not with an economics analyst.








Andrea Miklasz said...

“Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to appellation. ”
--George Washington

Yes, yes I do need to. I agree with you.



Kate said...

Andrea,
I just found out , in a very , very shocking way , that men don't fantasize like women do. NOT AT ALL ! I asked someone to be honest and after I heard HONEST , I wanted to say ," Go back to saying what you think I want to hear".

Andrea Miklasz said...

Here's my other hotel room scenario:

We're in a room, and since we're such clusterfucks, instead of fucking on the bed, we're playing Trivial Pursuit. I'm mad because he's getting all of the sports questions right & he's mad because I'm getting all the pop culture questions right. In a flurry of lust I can no longer suppress, I whip the game and all its pieces onto the floor and try to take him passionately. We get only so far before he decides to spend the rest of the time trying to find all the little Trivial Pursuit colored pie pieces strewn around the room, whereupon I lose my temper, go outside the hotel to smoke and call MEG.

Andrea Miklasz said...

Kate, what DO they fantasize about, then?

BMF said...

Annie,

Wake up! Wake up! (I'm shaking you violently.) It's just a dream! Though how very fitting that you'd have a fantasy that combined your carnal urges with OCD cleaning up of a confusing mess. It was all kind of too much information.

Kate, yes. Do Annie a favor & don't answer her question honestly. Our little sweetie might think she's worldly, but....guys are guys.

Anonymous said...

To an extent, "guys are guys," BMF. But that's such an overgeneralization! Personally, it takes more than just a female body (unless you're just out for quick fuck to get off, which we all are sometimes) for my mind to transcend what I can see with my eyes and filter to have a bright, loud, explosive experience of all the senses at once.

Half of the erotica in a woman is in her complication, "carnal urges" aside, or included, or wherever. Andrea is so sexy because there are so many layers to peel off of her, taste and absorb, and I think the adventure of unveiling all of that would be a massive trip that an open minded man would find addictive.

There's nothing wrong with that woman's fantasy Andrea put in her blog, and it's very romantic, but it's stereotypical.

I picked up on the sensuality of the sauce right away. Andrea took Guy Friend's criticism too literally. "There's too much meat in it" doesn't mean there's too much meat in it. He meant "What I make is meatless and less labor intensive but it fills our stomachs, serves its purpose, so it's good enough." It takes no talent to make a marinara, if you've got the tomatoes. It takes some talent to make a decent primavera. It takes a master to make a delicious bolognese.

Guy Friend, you might find our commentary and discussions overstating the obvious, but Andrea sometimes needs things explained to her in a way she can understand that she doesn't pick up on right away. Things that are unsaid are only more important than what is said if you quickly pick up cues. Andrea's still working on that, is all.

Kate said...

Anonymous , I appreciate that you pointed out my generalization of men. I can't even make up an excuse for being such a sexist bitch . There are all sorts of lovers and I was in no way criticizing Andrea's fantasy . It was beautiful . I was completely projecting a recent experience of my own onto her. I tend to slip into a protective big sister mode when it comes to Andrea. A friend like her is so rare. In reality , she is much more experienced and worldly than I am . For instance , when I thought someone who was calling me peeps , and had made up an affectionate name for me , Andrea explained the social context of that word to me. The obvious has always been beyond my grasp. I can nail the minutia of art theory and love physics and love to debate the pros and cons of sting theory .
However , like many artists , you and your buddy are very, I should say extremely evolved and rare men. Unlike Guy friend. Why did he tell Andrea he didn't like her sauce? I can tell you something else that doesn't have any meat in it!
Can we all congratulate Andrea for completing her first year of grad. school? That is very impressive and although we knew she would blow everybody away , she worked really hard and deserves a giant WELL DONE!

BMF said...

Oh yes, Annie! Congratulations on your straight A's! (((Applause))) (((Thumbs Up)))

Anonymous said...

Kate, I was responding to my friend overgeneralizing that guys were guys and all the same across the board, which we're not, not at all. As for saying there are all kinds of different lovers out there, that's definitely true. My personal guess (and I can't say, I've barely seen the man) is that Guy Friend is a lot more "vanilla" than Andrea is....poor Guy (it's not too late, Guy!). So much talk of flavors!

Andrea did a great job in grad school. She's a lot smarter than she thinks and I'm very proud of her! All of that while being a single mom.

Don't worry, Kate. You're cool peeps.

Rob Cheney said...

Not looked at your blog for a while as "real life" has been busy but have to say that the shoes are nice but the fancy trousers are better!

As a rather hefty chap i declare there can never be enough meat in your sauce this is also due to fact we have a fairly meat free diet at home.

I cant top the printed napkins or engraved cake knife set but i still have a wedding dress in my loft and i found at the back of our cupboard the other day a rather dusty engraved "to a wonderful and supportive son-in-law" pint glass, i have been divorced 5 years so it shoes how often i go to the back of that particular cupboard.

Once again congrats on your "A" scores well done you

Andrea Miklasz said...

Thanks, Rob!

I have a dry-cleaner boxed, preserved wedding gown in my attic, and I have no use for it, though the trend is to let your children have THEIR babies' Christening gowns made out of your old wedding dresses. SO fine, but I think it's a curse. I also did save Craig's bowtie and cumberbun set, which was a John/Yoko limited edition silk piece, probably worth hundreds of $, which I can't find anywhere on the internet, which Luke wants to wear when he gets married, so I totally get the pint glass.

The meat in the sauce isn't overpowering--unlike, say the 5 entire bulbs (not cloves) of garlic chopped finely into it. It's my own recipe. One thing I will say in favor of my evil ex was that he'd always have a bowl of it with pasta, then get a second helping of JUST sauce & eat it out of the bowl--he thought it was that good. I agree with W about the meat metaphor.

The trousers are pretty slinky--red & black paisley skinny jeans. I'm just glad they fit. ;)

Let me know what your semester grades end up being! -170%, you go!

Rob Cheney said...

Well since that -170% episode my entire group sent some very poor feedback to the organisation running the course and all of a sudden we were removed from our tutor and found a new one so all is not lost.

My ex wife is getting married again in the summer I doubt she would want her cursed wedding dress back

Andrea Miklasz said...

Perhaps she'd like to borrow my cake cutter, though, Rob! I can expedite it to the UK!

Glad you got a new tutor...that was all just bullshit.