tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post5720039339224424714..comments2023-06-28T09:20:57.213-05:00Comments on Rhythms from The Offbeat Drummer: Be.The Offbeat Drummerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18297496441624179505noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post-24986621422724043452013-07-24T23:46:12.719-05:002013-07-24T23:46:12.719-05:00Yes, that particular cemetery plot is a Miklasz pl...Yes, that particular cemetery plot is a Miklasz plot featuring my great-grandparents, my dad's mom and dad and various brothers and sisters (and their spouses) on the Miklasz side. My dad is buried in suburban Northlake, in my mom's family plot. The whole reason we went there was to pay respects after my guitarist, Jake's, funeral luncheon, which was right across the street from St. Adalbert's, which is a Polish Catholic cemetery. Because nothing spells traditional Samoan funeral like gigantic plates of family-style Polish food. It was the first time Luke ate pork kielbasa, instead of turkey and gasp, he liked it! And he's a big fan of kapusta (sauerkraut) in the first place. <br /><br />I miss Jake already. While he was buried in his casket with a Sharpie-written special message on it (from a pair of Vic Firth 5A's with wooden tips that I never really use) from me, I will miss him terribly at this weekend's service. It's just going to be even more weird that the last practice, held the day he died. SuperJuls is playing with us again this week, and it'll just be the two of us..hello, clusterfuck!<br /><br />God, please, when I die, no "How Great Thou Art," ok? Include this woman's "Highway to Hell." Luke said there are so many witticisms he wants to engrave on my urn, he'll need the size of the Stanley Cup to fit them all in. ;)<br /><br />What can I say?The Offbeat Drummerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18297496441624179505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post-59514770320105288352013-07-24T22:53:43.725-05:002013-07-24T22:53:43.725-05:00Oh! Also, that version of "Highway to Hell&qu...Oh! Also, that version of "Highway to Hell" is incredible, as is that giant Miklasz statue in the cemetery. Nice thumbs up, Luke. I know that's not where your dad is buried, right? He's in your mom's family's plot elsewhere, right? But as much as I agree I hate cemeteries, that's one hell of a monument. BMFnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post-61317979860031390672013-07-24T22:49:11.248-05:002013-07-24T22:49:11.248-05:00"You're a fuck up."
Far from it. We..."You're a fuck up."<br /><br />Far from it. We addicts DO tend to live in a state of permanent adolescence until we grow up and get our heads straightened on correctly. We have trouble facing adult reality. You may have fucked things up in the past, but YOU are NOT a fuck up. No way. <br /><br />"Your blog is nothing. It means nothing."<br /><br />Your blog is AMAZING. I KNOW you're going to go places with it as your home base. Like your professor said after that class last fall, your story is SO compelling, it needs to be a book. It's an amazing journey. And you're so YOU in it. No crap. Your anecdotes are interesting and thought-provoking, they teach lessons, they entertain, they show your sensitive vulnerability with sharp wit. Your mom doesn't even read your blog. How would she know what it's about? <br /> <br />"You're a dreamer. That's what you are."<br /><br />Annie, we're all dreamers. Every artist is a dreamer at heart. It sparks creativity and generates magic. I bet you dream in long stories like I dream music. You talked about the vignettes you imagine while you're trying to get to sleep. I do that too, but mine are musical compositions. I usually forget them by morning, but I have gotten up to write them out.<br /><br />"You're a child." <br /><br />You're a 41 year old woman. You are NOT a child and don't deserve to be treated as such. Yes, you're still "growing up," but so am I. We all are. It's an ongoing process. Yes, true, most women your age have their lives all figured out and are living them pleasantly, but nobody's been in your shoes except you. Not even me. <br /><br />"You're totally out of control."<br /><br />Yes, straight A's in graduate school and a kid to bring up and a band to play in and friends and Guy just spiral you like a rotini noodle. So you gained some weight. You were a 5'8" anorexic. It's probably good for you and you're the only one who sees yourself as "chunky." I know you're still beautiful and always will be. You're just not used to looking NORMAL since you've been so sick the last few years.<br /><br />"I don't care how many degrees you get, or what kind of doctor you are....YOU WILL NEVER 'BE' ANYTHING."<br /><br />Annie, you are already something. You're lots of things. Something else, for sure. There's no one else like you in the whole world. You WILL be a successful doctor, no matter how long it take or how harrowing the investment is. Your mom is cool for helping you out with the loan, but totally uncool trying to control the money. Like you say, it's primarily in your name. I know you'd never talk to Luke with so much discouragement. Try as best as you can to let those kinds of statements roll off of your back and keep on moving forward as you have been. Your mom is scared, because she DOES, I think, see so much of your dad in you, and he fucked a lot of things up and then died. I totally agree that she projects her fears about your future in light of what happened to your dad. Turn that voice off. YOU know what you're capable of. And you, my pretty, are destined for greatness. I have no doubt. What'd my buddy say? You're an evolution of a revolution? Totally accurate.<br /><br />Deep breaths. I know who your date is Friday night, and I hope you two have a great time. I expect updates. It's long overdue. I will, no doubt, be laughing all night and thinking of "Hannah and Her Sisters." You HAVE to tell me if he shows up in khaki suburban pants.<br /><br />Tell your shrinks to quit equating you as Charlie Brown and instead replace you with being just like Woody Allen. <br /><br />As you're well aware, I love you. xoBMFnoreply@blogger.com