tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post2954518956498006588..comments2023-06-28T09:20:57.213-05:00Comments on Rhythms from The Offbeat Drummer: Jesus, How Many Times Do I Have to Post This Fucking Video Before Someone Listens to Me?The Offbeat Drummerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18297496441624179505noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post-43673055533298092982012-03-18T16:00:47.044-05:002012-03-18T16:00:47.044-05:00I remember offering to bake you a cake awhile ago,...I remember offering to bake you a cake awhile ago, having been excited about a new recipe and in response to you commenting about having trouble gaining/maintaining weight. <br /><br />I really don't recall making any comment about cake last time I saw you. If I did, I am sorry that my words were poorly chosen. I certainly wouldn't say something like that with any intention of insulting your body or hurting your feelings. Knowing myself, I can imagine saying something like that as a clumsy way of expressing concern.<br /><br />I'm really surprised that you thought I was at an unhealthy or unattractive weight. At 5'8", 150 genuinely is quite reasonable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post-920632156801607662012-03-18T07:43:31.193-05:002012-03-18T07:43:31.193-05:00I'm not misremembering exactly what you said u...I'm not misremembering exactly what you said upon seeing me the last time we saw one another in person. You told me I could use a chocolate cake, implying I was too thin. If being 20 lbs thinner is better for your overall health, that is why I would wish you congratulations.The Offbeat Drummerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18297496441624179505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post-23120997521641445312012-03-17T22:31:27.772-05:002012-03-17T22:31:27.772-05:00Actually, "congratulations" for the weig...Actually, "congratulations" for the weight loss is just buying into the same thinness-as-virtue mindset behind the comments about needing a chocolate cake that offend you. Though, in my case, you are misremembering.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post-83149368700030613572012-03-17T16:43:29.462-05:002012-03-17T16:43:29.462-05:00Congrats on the weight loss. It hurts just as much...Congrats on the weight loss. It hurts just as much when people see me and tell me I could "use a chocolate cake" upon greeting, as I recall. But I'm getting really used to people snidely commenting on my thinness, over which I have little to no control. <br /><br />I give you snaps for at least understanding the lyrics, unlike others I've directed the song towards in the 20+ years I've known it.The Offbeat Drummerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18297496441624179505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8191306183209604345.post-60619560464100993112012-03-17T16:30:38.590-05:002012-03-17T16:30:38.590-05:00Aw. I never knew you thought I "could stand t...Aw. I never knew you thought I "could stand to lose a few pounds." Lost over 20, actually, but never thought I needed to. I'm comfortable in my skin either way. <br /> <br />I did realize you decided at some point that I was "essentially a bitch." It still makes me a little sad that you chose to see me that way, but I accept that you get to decide how you feel about people.<br /><br />You're certainly right that those are some penetrating lyrics.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com